A friend on Facebook posted a link to this article: A Message to Women from a Man: You Are Not "Crazy" It was a pretty great eye-opener for me. While I am lucky enough to have men in my life that don't tell me I am crazy, I have something even worse--myself. I tell myself my emotions are crazy and irrational all the time.
The idea that feelings are irrational is preposterous to begin with, the way something makes you feel is not something you can control.
It seems like most women have figured out how to cry while conversing or yelling. When I cry, which isn't terribly often (unless I am watching Parenthood, that show is amazing) I am mute. Any kind of speech makes me cry ten times harder. This can make emotional marital conflict extremely difficult. It's at these times that I feel the most "crazy". I can't even explain why I am upset because talking is nearly impossible! Perhaps I just need to train my husband to be quiet at these moments and let me talk when I am able.
I lied. Although I am my own worst enemy when it comes to being called crazy I realize I get it in another one-liner that wasn't mentioned in the article. "Don't make a big deal out of it" Just because I want to talk about something doesn't mean I want to make a "big deal" out of it. You just need to learn to deal with the fact that we're going to talk about it! I don't think I have ever let that line shut me up, but it's subtle emotion manipulation just like being called crazy.
Knowledge is power ladies. Read the article, spread the word, don't be put down!
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